Politics is also not a weapon

In “Your political beliefs don’t justify racism”, Andrew Wang discusses an incident that involved several teenage boys wearing shirts to celebrate throwing Mexican immigrants over the wall and his school’s response of discussion about politics without an actionable plan or clarity of positions on the matter.

My response to politics used in this vein is similar to my position on how religion is sometimes used (see Religion is not a Weapon). We must clarify the definitions of ‘difference of opinion’ and ‘harm’. The origins of political parties date as far back as the 1600s (see scholastic origins of political parties) intended to help bring organization and structure to political activities so everyone could have a voice, or at least a representative of their views in meetings. However, during the American Revolution, these parties, or factions as they were sometimes criticized to be, were not entirely philosophically supported by our early leaders. Yet, they supported them in action, nonetheless. Why?

Well, we can’t be sure of course at this point, however, if we consider science, we can garner some ideas. First, our brains can’t handle and overabundance of information all the time. We need metaphorical bumpers or filters if you will. Otherwise, we become overloaded and overwhelmed. Heuristics, or the ability to group things, ideas, or issues, can be very helpful. Political parties allow us to do this. They essentially ‘bundle’ positions for us in what we now call platforms. Second, we all have the need to be heard and there is strength in numbers, as they say. So it is no surprise that we’ve grown to group people together behind a set number of policies to support. Third, most people want to feel like they belong to something bigger than themselves. Political parties both provide a sense of belonging to a club while simultaneously allowing people to feel part of a movement.

All of these pieces, make it near impossible to break up the party system – because when biology is the foundation for its usefulness, humans will perpetuate its existence.

So next time someone asks you why we can’t get rid of the parties…well, you can simply say…our bodies need it. 😉

But that said, does it give us the right to wield our beliefs as a blanket justification for anything we say or do? The answer is emphatically no. This is a common issue in psychology as it is not infrequent for someone to justify harm to another, to oneself, or to account for atypical behavior as being because of some personal belief. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs. People can have a difference of opinion. We can exercise our First Amendment Rights. But we cannot use such beliefs, opinions, or rights to justify the infliction of harm on oneself or others.

The difficulty comes when we try to define where that line is drawn. The line is this: When what you do or say results in physical, mental, or emotional harm to others, there is no position, group, text, or belief that makes ones actions allowable.

Just as there is a difference between facts and opinions, so too are their differences between beliefs and harm. We must clarify these lines for our nation or we will predictably find ourselves in a sea of confusion where the loudest, but perhaps least informed, voices rise to the top and lead us to places we never intended or wanted.

Clarity of facts and definitions of harm must be maintained for a society to operate with safety and reason.

Political Traps

Much has been seen in the wake of the controversial confirmation of Judge Kavanaugh’s appointment to the Supreme Court. There have been significant accusations on both sides of the aisle accusing the other of making this hearing into a sensational circus aimed more at playing partisan politics than focused on the confirmation or rejection of the President’s appointment.

What has been lacking in these arguments is any effort to understand why.

Why are the parties making a Supreme Court justice nomination about politics? The easy answer is to assume it’s about power of the party. The next easiest answer, and probably in tandem with the former point, is that it’s about power of the person – in other words, Senators who are individually trying to maintain or elevate their status for re-election purposes or to create opportunity to run in 2020 for President.

But those are the easy answers. What are the deeper ones?

Well the next one has nothing to do with partisan politics but is nonetheless highly emotional and also about bringing attention to a very important, under-appreciated and under-recognized issue, and that is sexual assault, abuse, and the hidden, but pronounced, scars it leaves behind. In so many of us, it was impossible to ignore not only the pain Dr. Ford expressed, but individually, the memories it brought forth. In these moments, it is nearly impossible to maintain a sense of focus on the current situation because the memories of personal experiences hinder our ability to think. We begin to see the person accused as the person that hurt us and the thought of them in power is so painful, so egregious, that one doesn’t just disagree, one doesn’t just argue, one doesn’t patiently and quietly stand by – one carries out an emotional plea hoping that the perceived injustice to oneself is rectified.

This is not partisan politics – this is a huge number of the women in our country reaching out for help – experiencing joint, national-level catharsis – and to suggest that the expression of that pain should be calm, clear, and rational in its delivery is unfair, unreasonable, and disrespectful.

So how is it that so many Senators missed this point? They are mostly attorneys, practiced politicians, and self-selected as people who can withstand and ignore a lot of negativity. To be in these jobs, they necessarily must be people who tend to calmly review reports, people, and situations with an eye for rules, legalities, arguments to win, and an ability to block out all dissention. If they didn’t have these skills well-honed and these personalities, they wouldn’t likely be politicians. Their reactions, in my opinion, are predictable. Just as an Emergency Room doctor would react to a person with a severed arm calmly and focused on assessing and addressing the situation rather than screaming in fear or paralyzed by shock – Politicians will react with focus, arguments, and blinders to dissenters under this kind of a situation. This doesn’t excuse their seeming lack of understanding but it does provide some insight. If we don’t like people with these personalities in public office, then we need to join the many people around the nation standing up to run for the first time. That’s how real change will occur over time.

But right now, there remains an even deeper, even more concerning point that this combination of situations brings to bear and this is the issue that requires the most attention. It is the fact that when we focus on only one action, one moment, one issue at a time, we miss the forest for the trees. I watched a Senator give a very long, very detailed, very supported argument about why the person would confirm Kavanaugh. However, in doing so, this person also revealed a flawed process that failed to recognize the point that with each stove-piped action, the accumulation of uneven power across the nation increases. It is the multi-situational set of issues that creates a larger, more destructive system of problems. In psychology, and I believe in business too, it’s called the foot-in-the-door technique – get people to agree to a series of small actions or agreements and then, without even realizing, they will have agreed to major purchases or changes.

Similar to the fable of the slowly boiled frog, the real threat that was missed in this hearing was that it is one more event that raised the temperature of the nation.

Nominations, allegations, and partisan politics

The testimony of Dr. Ford has brought our nation to a boiling point of frustration, fear, anger, and strategic politicking. How do we sort this out? Who do you believe? What should happen next?

With so much at stake, the country has divided itself based on whether or not they believe Judge Kavanaugh should be confirmed for a lifetime appointment to the Supreme court or not. Yet, the typical political concerns that arise at these times are heightened by the fact that a woman has come forward to say that she was assaulted by Kavanaugh. This is further exacerbated by the impact these allegations have had on women all over the country who have faced similar situations. The joint catharsis of deeply emotional experiences is creating a wave of backlash, fueled by intense personal memories. As if that weren’t enough, Bill Cosby is mid-sentencing and will receive jail time, numerous high level, powerful men have been removed from their positions in very public showings, and the current President has been accused of similar behavior.

Yet, there is a claim from the leader of the Senate that his “Democratic colleagues…willfully chose to turn a sensitive allegation into a political and media circus that inflicted considerable pain on Dr. Ford, Judge Kavanaugh, and both of their families.”

What are the odds?

Statistically, they are slim. The average range of misreport is 2-8%, depending on a variety of factors. The age of Dr. Ford, her credibility, and the personal cost to testify at this level, puts her in the lowest probability range.

However, Judge Kavanaugh has also been through numerous investigations and has a long work history to support his credibility as well.

Then there are politics. How can we, as Americans, determine the true motivation of our senators? On the one hand, they’ve been chosen to speak for each of our states. On the other hand, in order to get re-elected, they have to constantly fight for themselves personally. Additionally, it’s very bothersome that there is a clear divide between the parties. ONLY Republicans are voting for Kavanaugh. Is that because Democrats won’t allow a conservative judge? Is it because the Republicans want to press for their party and ‘win’ over choosing a judge everyone can agree to? Is it even possible for the senate to agree or are we so far gone with partisanship that it wouldn’t matter who was nominated?

And then there is us, the American people – and especially women. So many women have lived through, and suppressed, experiences similar to Dr. Ford that it would be impossible not to feel as if one is fighting for the very idea of protecting women – regardless of whether or not this man did what she has testified.

So where do we go from here? Is there a right answer? Is there only perception? Is there only politics to guide us?

Where we go is for the truth. In all of these perceptions, worries, fears, and accusations – one fact remains solid: Only one of the two people that testified was telling the truth and there is little chance that anyone in the senate would know which one that is based solely on how believable their testimony seemed. What surprises me – or perhaps bothers me – is that many in the senate are attorneys – and they know that testimony is only one part of the puzzle and frequently not the strongest part. They also know that seasoned attorneys and judges are extremely well versed in how to coach, give, and take testimony.

The right way to do this is to find the right answer. We live in a nation where we have clear guidelines for how to handle accusations. We live in a nation where we take seriously lifetime appointments. Delaying is inconvenient and I’m sure worrisome to Republicans because this timing is so tied to the midterm elections but inconvenience is no justification for guessing.

It should never be the goal of our elected officials to push their own answer, rather it should always be the goal to find the right answer.

Collaboration and Friendship

If we’re going to defend together, we must train together and if we’re going to train together, we must first be friends.

This was told to me recently while overseas and I think truer words were never spoken. What is the intangible benefit of face-to-face, open thinking, undirected, fun with coworkers? A colleague of mind calls it mandatory fun but perhaps there is more of a purpose, more of a reason for it. Something happens when we all learn the human side of our coworkers. We begin to let down our walls, we begin to talk as humans, we begin to form friendships.

Through the formation of these shared experiences, trust is built and the outcome of that trust is greater effectiveness at work.It is so commonly the case that every minute, every dollar, every meeting needs to be requirements-driven, justified, and the outcomes clarified. Of course this has developed out of a necessity for accountability but in the act of severe control, we lose the benefits of creativity, thought safety, excitement to explore and create. The most innovative companies in our nation are well known for creating fun and safe environments – why? Because the secret, yet directly unmeasurable, outcome of these spaces is the encouragement of new ideas. Born from these ideas are profits.

Ironically, the very act of focus on requirements reduces the likelihood of addressing them at our best level.

Creativity and effectiveness are enhanced by team building, success driven, failure- accepting spaces. Our nation would be wise to capitalize on these ideas and methods – they create the highest likelihood of success for our people locally and worldwide. International friendships and respect for the unique capabilities of other nations will predictably enhance our worldwide economic and defense stronghold and impact.

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National policy: Local impact

 When most of us discuss policy, we are referring to the platform of a particular political party or a particular candidate. However, policy in the Government has a different meaning – it refers to the set of documented rules or recommendations people or groups within Government or entities outside of Government, such as companies, shall act. In the case of recommendations, or “instructional policies”, agencies have the option of following them. They are not required rules. Typically, these are considered best practices and the documents act as supportive reasoning for decision making. But with other policies, whether they be laws written by Congress, Executive Orders written by the President, or policies within Governmental agencies, they must be followed. All this makes sense….until….

What happens when a policy that appears narrow in scope is suddenly realized to create a ripple effect that creates issues for another group or interferes with another existing policy? Across the 2.4 million executive branch workers, there are an enormous number of policies and you can probably extrapolate how a web of confusion can easily develop. But the question today centers on how these policies can not only affect the interpretation of other policies but also how they can create big challenges in individual towns.

When rules are put in place to “improve” a situation in one area of the nation or in one industry, it must then be followed by all states or companies. However, what about the ones for whom it may not be an improvement? If they don’t have the same issues to deal with, how will they ensure they follow the policies? And more importantly, how will they do it in a way that doesn’t significantly affect profit? More importantly, how does all of this affect the people who live in towns that depend on these work opportunities?

The way we’ve always dealt with these issues is to constantly update policies based on new information brought typically by representatives from those areas or from lobbyists in the affected industries or locations. However, can we do a better job? Can we a) better account for the differences across our states at the outset and b) can we recognize the need to, more often than not, make changes slowly and with intention? For example, perhaps for safety reasons, a new policy has to be enacted immediately. Or maybe that’s true for only some areas or people. But the part that’s oftentimes missing is the future planning piece. In this case – are we changing the way we educate the youngest people in these affected towns to ensure that the next generation is prepared for future employment? Or do we stop at the point of making rules, more rules, continuously changing rules?

A common mantra I share widely is: When you present people with a plan, they become your critics but if you include them in the solution, they become your champions. Perhaps we could do a better job of including everyone in the solution building rather than reserving those decisions and input for people in office. Perhaps if we crated conduits for input and opportunities for transparency, we’d find our solutions to be more accurate, responsive, inclusive, holistic, and proactive. Perhaps we’d be able to unify and connect our people toward common solutions and plans rather than divide us to fight over winning an outcome that favors some rather than supporting all. We can do better – we just need to consider problems from different angles and more holistically.

Large Corporations: What makes them tick? Why do you care?

To be fair, it’s not about the corporations themselves, it’s about the dreamers, the innovators, the mind racers – it’s the ones that stay up late at night, who wake up before the sun with an idea they can’t shake, who are driven beyond reason to address seemingly impossible problems. It’s these people that start with a crummy sign taped to a small office but who can, in great detail you never want to hear to the end, explain all the intricacies of how they are going to achieve their goals. Most of us just shake our heads as we listen to the outrageous stories….until….they achieve them.

It doesn’t matter if we are talking about musicians, business owners, tech start up leads, or even children. The pattern is the same and it is at the heart of my article on mind racers (https://followherredshoes.com/mind-racers-defining-clarity-in-chaos). These personalities are not only capable of imagining the impossible, they crave the challenge. More than that, they need it at the biological level in order to maintain their personal homeostasis point. That’s why reason and nay-saying will never deter them, they literally need it – this continuous challenge.

Now the question: Why do you care and what does this have to do with national unity?

Some of our U.S.-based companies have attained such a level of human, social, and economic power that they can not only affect their brand’s market, but they can influence societies and governments around the world. We think of defense of this nation as a purely military activity and diplomatic exercise. But we would be remiss if we didn’t recognize the unregulated, yet powerful influence these large companies wield. The Government must not directly support or engage with a specific company at any one time – it violates ethics rules. However, there are methods by which the U.S. Government engages with companies through panels, open discussion forums, workforce exchange programs, etc.

But in spite of the opportunity to work together – what is the reason these largest, most influential companies, would work with the Government?

We can say they should. We can say they need to be patriots. We can shame them into it. But none of these options will ever work entirely, deeply, or even long term because we can’t simply force people to do things. Their heart just isn’t in it. But perhaps there is another angle. Perhaps, if we answer the acronym: WIIFM (What’s in it for me?), we will achieve success. If these creative, innovative, intellectual moguls need contest challenge, well, our nation has an unlimited supply  The tech leaders of our nation fight hard to achieve personal, financial, and company success but eventually – the company is so large and the money is so abundant that they run out of goals to accomplish….and have to make new ones. Bill Gates focuses on philanthropy. Elon Musk invents new solutions to problems he can find. But how do we harness the energy, minds, and innovation of these thought leaders and use it to both bolster our national footprint and leadership but also create a better planet for all our people?

I think the short answer is that we provide the unending supply of challenges they seek. We create the metaphorical American Whiteboard where answers are needed. And I think we not only feed their need to think, build, solve – but we use that energy and that methodology as a driving model to design education and inspire our people to follow suit. We invite everyone in, rather than ask only a few to dominate.

The nation that views life as a report card requiring checks in boxes to prove worth will design pathways that perpetuate and promote an industrial model that rewards completion over success. But the country that decriminalizes failure and encourages creativity, will energize its people to brilliantly innovate – and in doing so, attract the most influential minds to be part of the team.

Leadership: National and International Scale

There is an old parable about the wind and the sun and a man with a coat. The wind and sun make a bet challenging the other to get the coat off the man. The wind blows and blows but the man holds tighter onto his coat and the wind is not strong enough to force it off. The sun takes her turn and simply shines her rays. As the man becomes too hot, he voluntarily removes the coat and the sun wins the challenge.

The moral of the story is that force creates a closed, defensive stance while warmth invites voluntary agreement.

Most of us know this logically but few of us execute it rationally and frequently. Why? Because in our own frustration of others, we are oftentimes hindered in our ability to think clearly. In highly emotional and agitated states, we struggle to see the forest for the trees and thus aim to speak more, yell louder, prove our point….which surely will convince the recipient of our brilliance. But alas, it is in fact the act of listening that can often provide the greatest opportunity for understanding and ultimately for success.

In a commonly stated position by the current Secretary of Defense, Secretary Mattis, he advocates for a two prong approach to defense: The power of inspiration backed by the power for intimidation. In national and international leadership, much like the parable and Secretary Mattis’s beliefs, it is in our best interest to recognize the benefits of using metaphorical sunshine to elicit compliance and buy in. It is frequently a stronger position to be the listener in the relationship rather than the one dictating the outcomes.

Remember: If others are provided a plan, they will become your critic but if they are part of the solution, they will be your champion.

Across the country and across the world, it is in our best interest to bring our people together, to listen to one another, to find common ground, and to invite the world to join us because it is the strongest position we can take as a world leader – it is the most effective method for creating agreement at scale.

Photo by Oleg Yeltsov Photo by Aziz Acharki

Nonpartisan Politics

With the passing of Senator John McCain came many comments on social media and for the first time in a long time, I saw people from both sides of the aisle express their condolences – without distain. There were a number of people who noted that they disagreed with his political positions in many areas but they remained respectful and appreciative for his devotion to the country and his service.

I try not to read the comments to articles too often because the intense rhetoric we see these days is typically overwhelming but also filled with hyperbole. It often involves personal attacks and exaggerations without clarity about the factual disagreement.  But I was pleased to see a different tone, different tact, different message this time. When I lost my daughter, I found it odd and significantly uncomfortable that the world kept spinning, people kept going about their business – my world had stopped, but no one else’s had. What I saw today, however, were people who took pause to consider the man, but also to take a moment to reflect on not only his actions but what his actions in cumulative represented.

I write tirelessly about unity and what I witnessed today was the passing of a man who, right or wrong, agreed or disagreed, brought unity to our people in the grace of his death. I find it wondrous how a person affects others even past their being alive but sometimes, we have to remember that it’s not always about what we say, messages are shared through many layers and tools.

When my daughter passed, I asked myself, “What is the impact of a soul?” In his passing, John McCain brought unity to our people and an appreciation for public service – and that message is worth everything.

RIP, Sir.

Mission Success: Defining the goal…and the exit strategy

 In a recent essay by Phil Klay (https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/05/left-behind/556844/), he reviews the impact of war on the individuals fighting – the need to know what mission success really is, the need to know that America is unified in support, and the need to know the exit strategy from such experiences. He also highlights, heavily, the need to ‘fight’ as a team of not only boots-on-the-ground warfighters but also to include civilian diplomatic team members and Americans-at-large. He concludes with the statement,

“If your country won’t…resource the wars with what its own generals say is necessary for long-term success, what else is there to fight for? …if you think the mission your country keeps sending you on is pointless or impossible and that you’re only deploying to protect your brothers and sisters in arms from danger, then it’s not the Taliban or al-Qaeda or isis that’s trying to kill you, it’s America.”

Strong words from a former Marine. Now the question is: What do we do about this?

I frequently write about the need to transform from being a reactive nation to being a proactive one. Whether or not we are aware of the sentiment being described in this essay, if these are the questions being asked by our troops, then at the least, it is a brewing issue and we need to think through our ‘team’ strategy, our readiness as a nation, and our exit strategy from constant wartime actions. What, how, and why does this affect all Americans?

Today it primarily affects individuals on active duty but if the concerns Mr. Klay elucidates are true, then the “sickness,” as he calls it, is permeating like a silent virus through our nation and affecting us beyond our active duty troops. If his assessment is accurate and his concerns for the future true, then we have work to do if we want to maintain our world leadership status. For brevity sake, I’ll start with a short list of high level reactions:

  1. Expand the idea of readiness across all aspects of our country – “Team America” is really a lot like a field sports team and the military is the goalie – our last line of defense. The goalie is oftentimes mistakenly thought of as the only person guarding the goal. But in reality, the opposing team has to get through all the other players before reaching her. One time, my daughter’s lacrosse coach pulled a goalie during a game…to prove a point. He wanted the girls to know, they should see the goalie as the very last resort rather than relying on her to be the savior. We are all part of the team – we just need to choose, own, and excel at our positions.
  2. Clearly define mission success – This sounds simple but at the highest level of strategy, it is anything but. If it were so easy, then everyone could do it but in fact, it is a highly complex problem space that includes multiple variables, communities, complementary and competing goals, and multiple timeframes. But nonetheless, for maximal achievement, we must find ways to break down this complexity and explain it not only to our active duty military but also to our support civilians, other government departments, and to Americans-at-large.
  3. Articulate each community’s part of the mission – We rarely see anyone articulate what we need from Americans beyond cheerleading. Industry can provide significant technological, management, and innovation support. Academics can help answer questions for the future and aid in proactive development. Some Government departments can provide not just intel but translated meaning and other departments can provide knowledge and complementary project outcomes that can be tweaked to fit military needs or security.

When we work as a holistic team, “readiness” at scale will ensure we are a nation that understands mission success and supports it efficiently and effectively. It’s not about being the lowest cost, technically acceptable force, it’s about being the most lethal and capable one.

Communicating across the Ages: The Cultural Gap

 I gave a talk yesterday to a group of young people aged mostly 25-35 and I realized quickly that although  I was used to being one of the most dynamic and energetic people in the room, with these youngsters, I was, perhaps not dull…but certainly out of touch with their generation. I watched, I learned, I took notes. What did I find?

I learned when giving speeches to youngsters, use pictures of cute furry animals and include looped short videos of humans doing dumb things (that probably hurt a lot).

You might ask yourself, how in the world do these two things relate to the topics being presented? Here’s the funny thing – they don’t..at all. There was zero rhyme or reason to including such things but nonetheless, they were sure crowd pleasers. Upon reflection, as I’m known for doing, the scientific reason is likely based on the need to feel happy and awake. It was a curious learning experience for me but duly noted!

Now to the flip side – speaking to a group of people much older than me, I find the comments need to be deeply rooted in their personal area of focus and what you are saying must be immediately useful. Why?

It seems that the distinguishing factors between the age groups has something to do with two key variables: energy and time. If you have lots of time and lots of energy, then there is room for and excitement for the cute, the funny, the daring, and usefulness ranks low on the requirements list. But as you segue up the age ladder, where energy and time are lower, there is an expectation to make it quick and to the point. Humor only wastes time and may even give the impression you are covering up a lack of deep understanding. Of course there are many other variables – including purpose of the talk, rank of the individuals in the room, goals, personalities, etc etc. But to add to that variable list…

This time-energy set may be one additional aid in helping us unlock a pathway for better communication across the ages. There is a very common saying which reads, “Know your audience.”

If we want to bring this nation together, we need to know our diverse audience – and part of that includes knowing how different age groups not only think differently but also need different communication styles to be used. Listen. Learn. Grow. Good ideas for us all to remember. – jjoy

 

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